give or take some pauses to have a baby and all. that’s how long i’ve been trying to take my career to the next level. there are several reasons why this hasn’t happened yet (some of which i cannot talk about) – but mostly because the competition is more fierce than ever, and companies can demand more and give less.
why does this sound familiar?
oh. because this echoes my dating life. it’s followed the same timeline (with the same pauses for the same reasons). my last major relationship ended many moons ago and for reasons within and not within my control – i remain.
both job hunting and dating have been compared to part-time jobs. you have to put in multiple working hours, always put your best foot forward, keep up a high level of optimism, get excited at the basic reply/email/text, hope for a call and not dwell on any disappointments. except – none of these activities put money in your pocket, so its more like volunteering…without the feel good part (well..unless your dating is like THAT).
at this stage of the game, dating has become harder because, like the economy – the odds are ever in the favor of the menfolk. women are giving up more, settling for less, lowering the standards and the expectations of what one needs to do just to be considered. if you aren’t sending nudes via text message and willing to show what you’re working with on the first date, or accept him back when he “hey strangers” your inbox – then you lose.
on the flip side, job hunting is more competitive than ever. companies want university degrees for jobs (not careers) that don’t need them. bachelor degrees are the new high school diploma. the usual catch-22 of experience & school dilemma remains the same. companies are singing these employees ain’t loyal – but are quick to shift and downsize without a second thought. and even if you have all the qualifications they are looking for – you are seen as reaching too far above your pay grade and are expected to take your confidence levels down a notch.
sounds ALL too familiar.
in Ontario, up until a few years ago, high school was 5 years. the fifth year was for students who wanted to go to university. they would take OAC (Ontario Academic Credits) which would be used to consider your entry into a specific program at the universities. it meant that many students were going to school – armed with more education and more time to figure out what they wanted to do.
then, they eliminated it – creating the double cohort class where double the students descended upon the schools in the province. meaning now you have more competition than ever just to get INTO schools much less what’s going to happen when they all came out.
but if you want to progress in your career or want to settle down romantically – what other option do you have but to keep going? maybe it’s switching tactics. maybe it’s starting from scratch in your approach. maybe it’s putting the word out to see what comes back to you. maybe it’s taking a step back to re-examine what it is that you want and need.
the moral of the story is to keep going.
all you need – and all it takes is one.
what’s your word? any tips on how to attack the job hunt? would you apply similar advice to your dating search (if you are searching).